Two numbers. No personality quiz.
Fire and Firefighter Check-In
EDFI (Emotional Dumpster Fire Index) rates the fire: how big the situation is. Gary rates the firefighter: how depleted your body is. Same 1-5 scale, two different jobs.
Both scales run the same direction: 1 is fine, 5 is bad. A high Gary number does not mean a strong firefighter. It means an empty one.
EDFI
How big is the fire?
Emotional Dumpster Fire Index. How intense the situation is, not how well you are handling it.
Pick the number that is most true right now. Not ideal-you. Current-you.
Gary Scale
How's your firefighter?
Your body's capacity. How depleted the firefighter is right now.
Pick the number that is most true right now. Not ideal-you. Current-you.
Pick both numbers to get the next move.
A small fire plus a collapsed firefighter is not a small problem. That is why you rate both.
This is a self-awareness tool, not a clinical diagnostic. If you are unsafe, in crisis, or dealing with abuse, trauma, or persistent distress, get qualified real-world help.